Friday, October 5, 2012

The Friday Fast Report: "No, No, No!"

Li'l G has a bit of a temper. It's true. She gets it from our mothers. (I think I can safely say they would own up to this.) For a little while now, whenever I tell her no, she in a very mockingly upset tone with big crocodile tears in her eyes mimics back, shouting "No, no, no!" I realize that these early years will be fraught with many "nos," but it doesn't make me feel good. So when she asked me for something the other day with a look that conveyed her expectation of a "no," it felt wonderful for me to say "Yes, of course!" She was surprised, and elated.

So my new fast will be from the word "no" a little more often. Of course I will still need to set limits and correct, but I want to find better words to use than just "no," and be more deliberate about when I really need to restrict her. I want to make certain it is for her good and not my convenience. Just because mommy is tired and irritated can't be a good reason to say no to everything. I want to see that joy in her and surprise her with "yes" more often when it really isn't harmful, but I'd rather do something else, like finish a cup of coffee or just sit for ten minutes.

We'll see how it goes... :)

1 comment:

I'd love to hear your thoughts! Rest assured I do read each and every word, but please forgive me if I don't get back to you right away. The toddler tugging on my leg and the one year old pulling my hair may have seized control of my typing abilities. Blessings on your day!